By Rebecca McFarland
Frontier Extension District Agent
Many people go in to marriage thinking that the person they married makes them “happy” and that it will be always be that way. Remember, happy is an emotion, and our emotions change day to day and even throughout the day. The illusion about living happily ever after is a comforting thought, but for long-term happiness or contentment, each partner must consider the commitment that they have made to their spouse.
Marriage isn’t just about being in love, although far too many people think that is what sustains a marriage. Marriage is about the commitment and agreement to love and support one another – even when you don’t “feel” like it. Love should be an active verb and is about a person’s ability to love their spouse. One of the advantages of marriage is that when you fall out of love with your partner, your marriage commitment keeps you together until you fall in love again.
Marriage is not designed to make you happy. It is supposed to keep you focused on your commitment to your partner for life. For better or worse. It gives you the structure, support and security from which you and your partner are free to create happiness.